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首先多謝 Iris 邀請我参加這遊戲, 有d似小學玩 chain letter 鬼故.
Anyway, 怪廦是:

怪廦一:
男人"之" 家勁鍾意喊, 無看電影,書, 電視, 聽見證, 聽收音機...都可以大喊一場, 近來無線番播"十月初五的月光" 我家的紙巾再一次嚴重缺貨.

怪廦二:
跟怪廦一很d因果關係, 我個人係超感性, 好鍾意講/聽/看 一D超感性旳事, 或者硬要把一D事情給予一些意義在其中,返工時跟一些阿姐級的同事傾談時, 我會好欣賞她們的生活, 懶係明白她們的處境..

怪廦三:
我個人好鍾意玩 withdraw
相識朋友到一陣子時, 我會突然好想遠離他/她. 工作在某一環境一陣時, 又會想走. 一大班人在玩時, 我又會想閃開一邊...你可以話我個人容易放棄, 講得高級d可以話係 Freud 的 defense mechanism 其中一種"不斷否定自己" denial.

怪廦四:
崇拜權威, 但凡咩咩professor, 大師, 醫生... 我會謹記他們所說的, 在可能範圍下不斷搜尋當中的資料...
但一陣子後又忘記一乾二淨...

怪廦五:
大學畢業了五年了, 仍然非常記掛大學生活,但凡經過任何一間大學, 見到d後生仔女, 拿住個file, 就會唸起大學時的種種往事, 或 internet/blog 上別人有關大學生活的記錄, 儘管我大學生活其實只不過很普通, 無住 hall, 無上庄,無拍拖...
或者就係有太多留白的地方先有想像的空間, 或者就係有缺憾先有未了的心願


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好！講完自己5個怪廦，pick人時間又到，我選了：

香格里拉, 仲有..(因我認識的blog有限.., Fred 可以幫下我嗎?)

Japan Tour Day 4

Japan Video

All the bads gone and today is so nice.

This moring we went to visit Toyko Tower which the tallest tower in the world. We go there and take the lift to the middle of the Tower. I can see the full view of Tokyo which is so nice. I can see the Rainbow bridge, Fuji Tower, "Six bun wood" building ..

Next we went to Toyko Dome City which is a very nice and new place for shopping, catering and the most important part---- Roller Coaster.
I used 1000Yen to take a roller coaster for 1.5 mins the journery include pass through a building. All your scream are spread though the shopping mall and I buy a pic which capture my face in the jorunery. I am so exicted and happy after the game/scream. Human beings are very redicious which we will spent $ to get pain/nervous.

Then we go to "sun soap" and "yuen soap". This is the 1st time I see blue label. In the most famous shopping mall "01" all sales just like the model in the magazine. A set of suit of Burrery cost 5000HKD!!! I have brought some Muji and Fancl House.

I known there is a storm coming to Japan and our tour guide told me that the worse case is to stay for another day to let the storm leave. But I dun scare cos I have time and insurance cover my stay.

Now I am just wondering tmr philo. class Mong Kok , 19:30 is ok or not. cos I bring a lot of laggage and I am afraid the plane will delay.

Japan Tour Day 3

Since there was no internet service last night, I can only update the blog today.

Day 3
This morning we went to visit the Japan magnetic elevation training research insitute. In the weekdays, there is train testing show, to experience the speed of the train can up to 500km/hr but we visited on Sunday, we have see nothing and just watch the TV show and buy soverniour.. :-(

Then we went to see Lavendor, the place is also very small just like the Kowloon Tong Garden for pepople to take wedding pic. We are so disappointed.

Next we went to a Lake under the Fuji Mountain and have lunch there. Then we take an hour to goto the mid-level of Fuji Mountain which is about 3000km. But the weather was too bad, rain & no clear sight. We cant see the Fuji Mount. Then we visit a memorial garden "Pei Wo* gardern means "pray for the peace" at the night we visit a hot spring hotel near Fuji Mountain. All the day we miss the chance to see the true pic of the mount and the hotel we stay was too bad and hot spring size is as small as bathroom size.

Japan Tour Day 1

###I am now in the Japan, Toyko so I can use English only

Today I have been to airport at 5am. When I took Taix to the nearest bus stop to tak e N31 to aiport, the sky turned to black and rain heavily. Then I asked the taxi driver "Could it be cheaper to the airport?" He did not reply and stop me at the bus stop and request me for $15 without laugage fee. I asked why. But he told me that "look a but is behind you" The taxi driver is so stange and I feel so scare that in the world there is a man dun want to make profit.

On the plane、because today morning rain heavily so the staff could not repair the plane immediately and we need to wait on the plane for an hour. When I sit down in the plane I saw my old office manager on the same plane with me I know she will go to Japan before I leave the company but I dun know y so lucky to have the same flight and tour schedule with her. I even saw her whole family during the visit.

This hotel is so boring and remote, tmr I will visit Mickey Mouse.

David Lam 22/07/2005 Marroad International Hotel. Narita, Japan.

日本之旅倒數二日

今日一連看了五集十月初五的月光和觸不到的戀人，深深感到人生的無奈，青春的一去不返，所以決定好好用這假期．
自從星期一Last day 後，在家坐了一天，早上八時已醒了，香港又熱又濕，連看書也無心情，呆在家中，心想8月1日才上班，點計劃這假期．上次去了北海道後，一跟人說去過日本，人人總是想你去過東京，沒人想過我第一次去日本，係去北海道，今次總算完一心願．

My first Blog

我所給你的, 其實你本來已經擁有;
我所叫你放棄的, 你卻從未擁有過. .../達賴喇嘛

近來看了很多有關心理治療 (Psychotherapy) 的書, 很喜歡李維榕的書, 文章深淺適中, 其中一篇概括心理治療的功用時, 就用上達賴喇嘛這說話, 真的很好, 輔導員所作其實有限, 我們必須放棄一些我們未擁有過的人, 物, 事, 包括一些白日夢 (Fantasy).

自小生長在一個女性作主導的家庭, 我有一母三姊一妹, 父親出外工作, 不常在家中, 自問沒有一個導師 (mentor) 給我學習. 中小學成績和運動也不好, 可謂好又不及人好, 差又不及人差, 老師, 同學也不會記得你個重, 自我 (self) 發育不良, 令至我極容易嚮往別人的生活, 同學打籃球好會羨慕一番, 家住私人屋村又會羨慕一番, 成績好, 受歡迎, 有女朋友.... 統統令我心酸酸的.

轉眼間大學畢業, 工作了五年, 白日夢小了很多, 但間中也會發作, 場景多是戲院. 只要男演員不是七老八十, 部戲有一兩幕講校園, 友情, 理想; 我就會有極大的代入感, 到不能自拔的地步, 非要哭一個死去活來, 感懷身世一番, 甚至幾日牢牢記住戲中的情境. 可能這就是佛洛依德講的反移情(counter-transference) 吧. 達賴喇嘛的一席話, 教我學懂放棄一些我從未擁有過的人, 物, 事. 其實今日的你同我, 喜與悲, 也不受制於我們過去的成與敗. "每早晨, 這都是新的." 耶利米哀歌 3:23

但白日夢(Fantasy) , 是否十惡不赦? 我相信未必. 大部份人只會對陌生人存有幻想, 在街上你見到俊男美女, 你通常會覺得他會是有學問, 有禮貌, 好動的. 但當我們在大小報紙的娛樂版見到名星的私生活時, 我們知道外面從來也信不過. 最後換來失望. 但我請你由今日開始, 要不停發白日夢, 要不停猜想 (imagine) 別人, 但他們不再是街上的俊男美女, 電視名星. 反之是你"認為" 最認識的人包括你的上司, 老朋友, 兄弟姊妹, 父母, 甚至是情人, 配偶. 試想想, 你跟他們相處, 佔他們人生的百分之幾? 你認識, 了解他們有多少? 人與人相處總有很多地方是解釋不了的. "我明明對他這樣好, 他為什麼這樣對我" , 對不起, 我不是上帝, 我答不了. 讓我們就用多一點想像力, 去估計, 去猜想他也可能是因為........所以先會.......

太阿Q?我唔覺得, 心理學內其中一個仍然是主流的學派-- 心理分析 (Psychoanalysis), 相信人類的行為是由潛意識所支配, 試問連他自己也不明白/不意識的行為, 我們怎樣能明白? 用這角度去看人, 去生活, 你會發現小飛俠嘅 Neverland 就在眼前.